I’ve decided to use this blog to answer some of the questions I get about sexuality. Here’s a good one – let me know what you think! What would make you stop having sex? Stop masturbating?
I have this friend who has in recent months ended a relationship with his girlfirend, who he has lived with for the past two years. I assume that he enjoyed a normal and healthy sex life. Well, at least he had some sort of sex occasionally (I know he jacked off as often as he needed to). Since becoming single he has forgone any masturbatory urges and is “saving” himself for Ms. Right. How healthy is it to abstain from any sexual release for a prolonged period of time? What psychological and emotional impact can it have on a person? What is the holding capacity of the tank that is storing the enormous load some lucky lady is going to receive?
Abstinence can be a conscious choice (like your friend), it can be dictated by circumstance (such as unavailable partners), or it can be a religious vow. Overall, I’ve found that abstinence has become more popular in the last few years. In fact, several of my college students have told me that they have decided to forego sex and wait for the right person (women AND men).
Now to your questions – the semen “holding tank” actually has a release valve that takes care of large capacity loads. Men are constantly producing sperm and when they ejaculate, the build-up of sperm and semen is released. If the sperm is ready to be released but there is no orgasm, it often will be absorbed back into the body. Sometimes if physical sexual tensions mount to a critical level, they may be discharged by orgasms during sleep (often called “wet dreams” in men). Although we don’t talk as much about this happening in women – women are capable of sexual release during their sleep as well. If this does not happen, the typical ejaculatory load will be larger after a prolonged period of abstinence.
Overall, there are no known health risks to abstinence. In fact, there are several possible benefits. Psychologically, abstinence may help clear our heads. If we’re involved in an intimate relationship it can help give more depth to the relationship. There is also less worry about pregnancy, birth control, STDs, and other related issues. Abstinence can help you focus on what you really want and need in a sexual relationship.
So, the bottom line? Masturbation is healthy, abstinence can’t hurt you, and our bodies take care of pent up sexual energy. Spread the word!